“Don’t let the noise of other people’s opinions drown out your inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become.” ~ Steve Jobs
I absolutely love organizing wardrobes. It’s a unique growth opportunity that allows you to tangibly see life’s transitions and changes. Love worn shoes, coveted handbags, and hand me downs all connect seamlessly together like pieces of a puzzle that showcases the portrait of our lives.
Every now and then when conducting a consultation, I come across a piece that no matter how I turn it, twist it, or squeeze it, just will not fit into the puzzle. Such was the case while cleaning out a closet for a friend. I came across a beautiful knit blouse in a vibrant pattern with very artistic details. Intrigued by the garment I asked my friend the history behind it.
Hesitantly she began a story of how she was out shopping with a friend, and while she really didn’t like it, her friend loved the look and encouraged her to make the purchase. After succumbing to the pressure, she bought the blouse and worn it a grand total of 0 times.
As she spoke, it struck me how closely fashion lessons and life lessons parallel. How many times do we make decisions based on the opinions and approval of others ignoring the voice we have within? How many pieces to the puzzle are we holding in our hands that just don’t fit?
Your look, your choices, and your style are all reflections of who you are. These can evolve, and transpire with life’s experiences but the fundamentals remain the same. Each of these elements stem from the heart of you and no one knows you better than you. By learning to trust and listen to your inner voice, you will minimize the amount of returns and unworn merchandise in your closet. This is a powerful lesson that when applied to other facets of your life, can have meaningful benefits as well.
The next time you are shopping and feel pressured to buy, take a step back and pause to listen to your inner voice. The item may be well constructed or the latest must-have trend, but if you try it on and you don’t look or feel confident and beautiful, leave it on the rack. It’s not your missing piece of the puzzle.
Remember, having a makeover isn’t always about doing a 180° change. Sometimes it’s as simple as updating your wardrobe with a few fresh pieces that fit into your own unique style.